12.30.10

Relationship Action Plan

This year, I've decided to give up on New Year's Resolutions.  

Simple "good intentions" of losing weight, eating right, reading my Bible, and generating new ventures are just not enough.  

I want to honor God with results... achieved through honest effort... to bring glory to Him.

So, I've adopted the "Relationship Action Plan" approach to 2011 Goal Achieving.

Here's how it works:

1.  Take the time to identify your life's mission statement.

For me, this step took months.  I reflected my spiritual gifts, passions, life experiences, and skill sets... then searched for the overlap of all these.  

The single statement that summarizes my mission statement is this:  "To bring Glory to God through Innovation and Start-up energy."  I'm a 1st & 2nd gear individual who gets bored after a "new thing" is up an launched.  

That's how God made me!  And it is my responsibility to bring him Glory in all areas of life, with that!

2.  Apply your mission statement to each area of the life wheel.

Consider all areas of this wheel just as valuable and important as any other.  Take this seriously, even in the areas you may have neglected or overlooked in years past.  Consider in your heart what it means to have your life mission come to fruition as a parent, an employee, a ministry leader, an "exerciser"... you get the point.

3.  Set an "A" and "B" goal in each life area for up to 3 years out.

Get realistically ambitious here.  

"Those who aim at nothing hit it every time with extraordinary results." -Zig Ziglar

4.  Identify key people who can help.

These are the connections, the networking, the individuals that you may need to invite into this life area goal to help catalyze change.  Consider this:  if your goal is to "eat healthy" you may wish to connect with "Uncle Bob, the nutritionist" for advice.  get it?

5.  Identify key action points 

These are events, activities, or any other item that must take place to help you accomplish this goal.

6.  Accountability

Find someone who can honestly check in with you and offer the accountability and check-up you need to spur you on to success.  My accountability partner and I have pre-booked quarterly "Accountability Breakfasts" where I've asked him to ask ME about my progress in each area.

Take the time, this New Year, to really LIVE your year ON-PURPOSE. 

This tool may be of help:  DOWNLOAD HERE

Traveling the path

12.29.10

Traveling the path

I've made many travel mistakes in my few years on earth. If you were to ask my wife, she would tell you that I am one to follow the GPS to a fault. In fact, on some business trips I find myself in foreign cities with winding roads I've never even heard of before... trying to travel such paths without a guide is not only foolish, its DANGEROUS!





In a comical way, this video illustrates our need (perhaps as Men) for guidance. The problem is, some people find their guidance from self-serving motives, rather than God-surrendered faith.

We can walk any path we choose in life, so long as we BELIEVE in our hearts that it is right for us. But, the truth is that our hearts cannot always be trusted!


~~~


EXAMPLE: I walked into Costco a few days ago, and stumbled across the latest 3D HDTV setup on display. I instantly envisioned that television in my living room, mounted proudly on my wall. In my mind's eye, I saw my son watching "Finding Nemo" in 3D, laughing with entertained delight. I pictured my wife and I enjoying "our shows" at a whole new level... which would obviously improve our marriage!

Over the course of about 42 awe struck seconds, I began feeding the lustful desires in my heart to turning this "want" into a "need!"

But then it struck me.



THE LESSON: God's desire for us is not to be happy, but rather to be holy.



The truth is, my wife and I don't have "quality conversations" nearly at the frequency we should to grow our marriage... and this television purchase would only add one more "thing" to our crowded schedules.

The truth is, we desire to raise our son in a home that reflects Jesus, constantly. I have yet to find in Scripture a place where Jesus just sits down and chills out watching "the game."...

The truth is, the evil spirit of depression, isolation, and resentment flirts at our doorstep every day. I believe Satan would "entertain us to death" if he had the chance... (Check out John 10:10 and 1 Peter 5:8 )

Thank goodness Jesus said this first:

John 8:32 (New International Version, ©2010)

³² Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

So true.

I declined to allow my heart to travel the emotional autobahn it found itself on, any longer. I attacked this feeling with the self disciplined spirit of God's truth.

~~~

The decisions we make in our life determine the direction our life is headed in.

A wise sage once said, "Direction, not intention, determines destination."

It's what you do, not what you intend to do.

It's action, not just desire.

And the only way we can modify our ACTION is by changing our BELIEF.

And the only way to change BELIEF is by reconciling it to TRUTH.

And the only way to gain TRUTH is by absorbing and living God's WORD...

So I will travel this path... this path called LIFE... and allow God's TRUTH to transform my ACTIONS through changing my BELIEFS...

I'm Giving My Birthday Away...

12.20.10

I'm Giving My Birthday Away...

Matthew 25:35...

"For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat,

I WAS THIRSTY AND YOU GAVE ME SOMETHING TO DRINK,

I was a stranger and you invited me in...

...“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’ "

~~~

All of my birthdays have always been about stuff. Stuff I don't want, stuff I definitely don't NEED. And to be honest, I hardly even remember what I got last year.

So this year, I'm giving my birthday up.

I'm turning 28 years old, and instead of asking for gifts, I'm asking for $28 or more from everyone I know. It's not going to me, though. All of it is going towards build freshwater wells for people in developing nations.

A billion people in the world are living without clean water - but how much are they really living? Millions contract deadly diseases from contaminated water. 45,000 people will die this week alone. The lucky ones won't, but still walk hours each day to get dirty water to give to their families.

My birthday wish this year is not for more gifts I don't need; it's to give clean and safe drinking water to some of the billion living without it. I want to make my birthday matter this year.

Please join me.

please note: Because of charity: water's unique model, 100% OF ALL DONATIONS go directly to direct water projects costs, and each donation is "proved" and tracked to the village it helped when projects are complete.

3 Steps to Becomming FULLY ALIVE

12.17.10

Fully Alive

Recently, I stumbled upon a website that calculates the number of seconds you have been alive, based on your birth date and time.  I also found a website that predicts your death age based on lifestyle habits and condition of your health.

Where we run into trouble is when we spend too many days analyzing the past or anxiously fearing our future.  Both are irrelevant to the "full life" Jesus promised us in John 10:10!

 

John 10:10 (New International Version, ©2010)

¹⁰ The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; 

I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Ever since Jesus came, the worldview on life changed for the follower of Christ.  Jesus rose to claim victory over death.  He did so, to give us a bridge to walk between our anxieties over to true hope, love, and freedom.

From that point forward, the question the believer should be asking is "are we fully alive" in the time God gave us?

This has nothing to do with how long or short our lives are... but it has everything to do with WHAT we do with the time God gives us!

Philippians 1:21 (New International Version, ©2010)

²¹ For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. 

 Paul said it well.  To live... to truly LIVE means to model our lives after Christ!  When we do meet our maker some day, we will gain eternal life and have a blast!

So are you FULLY ALIVE?

Consider these three words as you seek God's answer to that question:

1.  Live.

Seriously, live. Go Hard!

Live as if God has complete sovereignty over your circumstances, 

your opportunities, your success... everything. 

Seek God's voice for how He's uniquely wired you.  

What has He called you to?  What has He made you for?  

Assess your spiritual gifts, your passions, your skills, your life experiences... 

 In the overlap of these is where you will find out what it means to truly LIVE.

2.  Give.

Model you life after a man from Gospel.  

He was born in a humble manger, grew up working hard, 

and gave all of His 33 years on this planet away.... 

...ultimately... as a living sacrifice for us.

Nobody can rob you of the opportunity to invest your days well.

An investment of your time, your gifts, 

your resources, your smile, your encouragement...

... all may have an eternal ROI beyond Earthly comprehension.

3.  Love.

Seems so simple... yet all to easily overlooked.

Love God.

Love God's kids.

Love the ones God gave you to love.

Have you experienced the joy of tithing the first minutes of your day to devotions or scripture time yet?  Are you willing to love people that hurt you, anger you, or are different than you?  How well are you loving those closest to you... the ones God specifically ordained to be influence by your love?

Husbands, you are the only husband your wife will ever have.  Ever.  

Fathers, you are the only father your kids will ever have.  Ever.

Live.  Give.  and Love.  

Prayerfully seek God's voice in your life, and listen to His words of encouragement.  Remember, God only corrects those He loves.  He offers freedom.  He offers significance.  He offers life!

Then, and only then, may we truly realize what it means to become FULLY ALIVE.

How to Delegate, EFFECTIVELY!

12.15.10

How to Delegate, EFFECTIVELY!

Delegation is one of those areas in leadership that is essential... especially if a leader has interest in leveraging their efforts with a team.  (and why else would you lead if you didn't expect to empower others along your journey, anyway?!)

Little do most leaders realize, the words they use have such powerful weight when it comes to the topic of delegation and empowerment.  Using the wrong words can destroy the foundation of empowerment you are looking to build!

Here are a few common phrases leaders should be aware of (and careful to not misuse) in order to develop a culture of empowerment and optimize the effectiveness of delegation through teams:

-BUYING THE TASK BACK-

With phrasing like this, the delegation is negated.  

The assignment remains with YOU.  

There is no progress until YOU do something...

"Let ME think about it..."

"I'LL let you know..."

"Leave it here, I'LL..."

"I'LL check with..."

"I'LL draft up..."

-PUTTING THE TASK IN LIMBO-

With phrasing like this, progress is slowed down significantly.  

Decisions are delayed, people are confused, and ownership is eroded.  

The delegation is only partially completed...

"Send me a memo..."

"Why don't you check with..."

"Draft up a proposal..."

"See me later about..."

"Let em know if I can help..."

"We'll have to do something..."

-ESTABLISH ACCOUNTABILITY & DELEGATE-

With phrasing like this, it's clear that the accountability has been shifted to the team member.  

The delegation is complete, clear, and understood.  Progress is MUCH more likely to happen...

"I know YOU can do it..."

"I'm counting on YOU..."

"That's why I gave it to YOU..."

"What are YOU going to do now?"

"What's YOUR new plan of action?"

"YOU will get it done..."

Certainly, teamwork and partnership is essential in corporate advancement, but take permission to delegate project tasks to the skill sets (people) God has placed on your team!

One final note:  if you a self proclaimed (or perhaps self-deceived) MICRO-MANAGER... read this post again!

Rear View Mirror

12.13.10

Rear view mirror...

Year end has recently become a time of reflection for me.  I try to not box my world up into a tiny little "me" sized bundle, but rather look back at the previous 12 months and consider what God was doing in that time.  

I look at the brothers and sisters in Christ closest to me, the ones God has given me to love well... what fruit stems from THEIR tree today?  

I look at the condition of my marriage.  Acknowledging that riffs and spats are somewhat normal for the healthy marriage, I inspect the overall temperature of our walk together as followers of Christ.

My relationship with God.  How QUALITY of connection am I seeking?  Could I look myself in the mirror and honestly say that my walk with God is more intimate than it has ever been? 

I take a look in the rear view mirror... not in order to plot my course, but rather, to recognize the gift of God's guidance by seeing where I've come from.  

This year:

1.  God stirred my heart...

2.  He challenged my paradigms...

3.  He provided mentorship (a tour guide) for my new journey...

4.  He provided stimulating books and thoughts...

5.  He provided a supporting wife, who's on board with complete surrender...

6.  He provided opportunity to use my rusty gifts, and bring Him glory...

7.  He provided new connections, networks, and friends...

8.  He provided innovative resources, that may serve as tools for my future calling...

9.  He provided miscellaneous events, engagements, and opportunities in environments no mere "me" could qualify to be in...

10.  He provided hope, vision, and dreams...

11.  He provides freedom, in Him, through Christ.

An amazing ride, for sure.  It has been a incredible year.  And I am so thankful for God's provision.

How my wife and I cut 30% out of our budget, and survived! + Free Download

12.09.10

How my wife and I cut 30% out of our budget, and survived!

+ Our Budget Form free download

In a previous post, I discussed the key importance of partnership in fiscal matters within a marriage.  It's common to find marriages where one spouse micro manages all the bills, budgets, and money... leading to some VERY VERY heated fights when it comes time for a reality check.  

So, while I have assumed the leadership mantle of CFO in our household, my wife and I take a team approach to teaching our money how to behave!  (parenting is such sweet sorrow!!!) 

Special thanks to Pike for asking a critical question on this post:  "what did you cut?"

Here it goes...

Starting shortly after WE (and I do emphasize WE) discovered that we were over budget, we combed back through the budget a second, third, and fourth time.  Each time, shaving away dollar after dollar to reduce our spending projections (and allowances) as much as we could.

Undoubtedly, we got down as far as we were comfortable... and soon realized we were STILL over spending!  So, we started taking lump sum items out.  We have several income streams, some of which are irregular but reliable (commission quarterly).  By separating the "knock down expenses" to a separate sheet, we essentially pre-spent the irregular income before we received it.

I love my wife dearly.  She's made a LOT of financial compromise in partnering with me recently.  We've gone from using credit cards for everything we could (travel points), to debit card on a budget (no travel points),... to ......  CASH ENVELOPES!

Oy, how painful this final transition was!  Having the "plastic" near by was a security blanket while grocery shopping or at restaurants.  Like a "metered" drug overdose, even on a budget we'd consistently overspend in the grocery store and in the restaurants when using our debit card... 

So there was no other option but to convert those two categories to cash envelopes.  In doing so, we've given our adolescent budget a "spanking" and are parenting our money to behave.

My wife was the biggest skeptic of the cash envelope migration... and is now our biggest advocate!  You should see all the coupons and discount deals my wife "magically" finds... it's weird...   (Maybe it helps we chose to incentivize her to manage the Grocery cash envelope well by allowing her to keep any money left over as her own "whatever" cash... She LOVES it!)

Today, we aren't perfect, but we are living well below our means.  We are that couple that brings a cash envelope AND a coupon envelope to the grocery store.  We shop at several grocery stores in town, including a bakery thrift store, Aldi's discount grocer, Costco and Meijer (all depending on what sales and coupons we have available.)

Also remember this:  Money is just money.  It can't buy happiness.  If nothing else, this entire experience serves as a great reminder that love, communication, mutual submission, and self discipline are far more important than owning flashy things and driving nice cars.  We've come to realize that our money isn't even really ours to decide where it goes, anyway!  It's God's money... He's just given it to us to manage for Him while we are here...

How we trimmed 30% out of our budget:

1.  Join together to prayerfully develop initial budget

2.  Recognize overage, go back and trim budget

3.  Separated the "Knock Down Expenses" in order of priority

4.  Converted the Grocery and Restaurant budgets to cash envelopes

5.  Incentivized the wife to manage the cash envelopes well = new found "whatever" money
for her.  (creates a "win win"--> "Happy Wife, Happy Life... {{insert nervous laughter}}")

6.  Remember, the budget is our strategy for managing God's money (not ours!)

Here's the budget form we've found & adapted for our personal budget.  Click HERE for my download-able Google Docs Budget form (Microsoft Excel)

Matthew 25:14-30 (New International Version, ©2010)

The Parable of the Bags of Gold

    ¹⁴ “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. ¹⁵ To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag,^[a] each according to his ability....  Click HERE for the full story...

Innovative by Design

12.08.10

Innovative by Design

No matter where you turn these days, the word "innovation" seems to connect itself to so many advertorial mediums.  Just pick up your remote control and start flipping through commercials, and you are likely to hear:

"This new innovative technology..."

"... in such an innovative way"

"Our team of innovative innovators innovated the most innovating innovation of the 21st century..."

In the midst of this linguistic abuse, I'll admit that the root definition of the term "innovation" has been lost in my mind.  

Until now.

You see it all starts with... Imagination!

Imagination:  Thoughts in our mind.  Daydream.  Think WAY outside the box.  Remember when you were a kid, and two chairs and an old bed sheet became "Fort Frontier" as well as your imaginative "command base" for the rest of the summer.  Think, relentlessly. 

then...

Creativity:  The ability to USE your imagination.  Creativity is not raw thinking (contrary to modern day belief)... but rather it is the ability to leverage an active imagination and pull out ideas to show the world!

then...

Innovation!:  Ah, here we are.  The word we've all been waiting for!  Innovation is the act or process of creating ideas.  Act.  Process.  There is form AND function to innovation.  It is a new way of thinking that has a system attached.  Innovation leverages the power of Left (logic) and Right (creative) brain thinking, together!

then...

Invention:  What good is an idea without somewhere to put it?  Invention is the step in the mix where imagined, creative innovations are connected to a discovered need.  The act of discovery can be the most exciting time for engineers and scientists, because here is where traction begins!

and finally...

Design:  To develop something for a purpose... typically monetization.  This present day jargon term in the business world connects idea creation to revenue generation.

I like to think of it like five separate glasses.  Once the first is filled, then it overflows to the next, and so on...  imagination leads to creativity which leads to innovation which leads to invention which leads to developing a repeatable methodology for walking this trail in the future (design.)

With this new understanding of where "innovation" fits into the puzzle of idea generation and business strategy, perhaps we can now understand the importance of "think time" and "PLAY."

It is essential that we do not approach every business decision with our "six sigma" "kaizen" linear thinking, only.  

It is essential that we do not approach every business decision with a pallet of water colors and a Moleskine filled with chicken scratch drawings, only.  

But if we can tap into the power of collaborative potential between both sides of our souls (the creative and the logical) and harness that energy intentionally for business growth (design)... then maybe... just maybe... we will find our place in the history books as 2011's true "innovators."

Change how you Follow!

12.03.10

Change how you Follow

If you feel frustrated or uninspired by your leader, you're in good company. Many people are unhappy with the leadership styles of those above them. Rather than trying to oust or change your leader, it may be time to look inward. 

Accept what you can't change — your leader's style. Focus on what you can control — how you follow. If you have a manager who likes to have his hand in everything, don't resist the micro-managing. Instead, invite him to get involved. He's likely to include himself anyway, and bringing him in increases the likelihood he will support your work. 

If your leader is more hands off and fails to motivate you, find inspiration from the work itself or from others in the organization. Then, reflect back to your leader what you find most inspiring. You may be able to show him what you need by getting it elsewhere first.

What is Your Mission?

11.29.10

What is Your Mission?

"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"

"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.

"I don't much care where--" said Alice.

"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat

--Alice's Adventures in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll

It is certainly counter-cultural to think that someone would head out on a journey, without knowing exactly where they were going?  

For the record: I'm not talk about a faith leap.  That is different in many ways... because some-ONE knows exactly where you are going, and you are relying on them as your tour guide... it's different.

I'm talking about living life, day to day, with reckless abandon of purpose!  


My life changed, drastically, when I embraced this concept.  


In late spring, this year, my life became a blank canvas for the Divine Artist to draw His will upon.  

I prayerfully went through a Spiritual Gifts Assessment, and unveiled the unique abilities God has wired within me.  


I reflected on my life experiences that God has given me, to refine me and shape who I am today.


I searched deep within my soul to identify passions that absolutely stir me up inside.  Some may call these their "Holy Discontents"


I scoured the scriptures for confirmation and validation of what I was seeing and feeling.


Then... and only then... I prayed for God to reveal to me the overlap of all these areas... which has become my life mission.  my purpose.  my vision.  my drive.


"To bring Glory to God through innovation and start-up energy."


May all that I do be a reflection of God, through inspiring, thinking, reinventing, and breathing energy into ideas.  


What's your mission?

Thankfulness

11.24.10

Thankfulness

What would a world look like, if the primary motivation catalyzing all humanity was thankfulness.  

Think about it.  

After a late night of dealing with your baby son teething, you wake up (far too early) to the electronic siren of your alarm clock... 

... and thank God for your family, air to breathe, and a day to glorify Him.  

You jump in your car to drive to work, and get cutoff by three different teenage drivers (who of course are texting, drinking coffee-- erh... a MONSTER, doing their makeup, and trying to navigate their vehicles through a small hand-chipped port hole on their frost covered windshield) on their way to school... 

... and you thank God for safety and protection on your morning commute.  Then thank God for protecting those kids too.

You finally arrive to your office, and are immediately called into your supervisor's quarters to have a "chat."  You are informed the company has underperformed projections for the past 3 fiscal quarters, and that all "staff" would be receiving a 15% reduction in pay, effective immediately...

... and you thank God for the fact that you still have a job.  And you also thank your supervisor for the opportunity to rebuild the company along side with them.

Think about it.

We live in a society that embraces selfish ambition.  We are told we live in a "dog eat dog" world, and that you have to go out and "get yours." 

I'm not the judge.  I can't pretend to know what's best for EVERYONE... but what if?  

What if the value we placed on gratitude and thankfulness far out weighed the value we placed on individual gain?  What would a world like that look like?

It starts with you.  Today.

Vision in Meetings

11.20.10

Vision in Meetings

In a business climate where slashing prices and laying off hordes to cut costs has become far too common, companies must look at fortifying their gains in all areas of their operation.  Unfortunately, it very well may be that the single largest factor leading to hemorrhaging profits has slipped through the cracks and is festering like suicidal poison among the troops. 

And this factor?  Lack of vision.

Proverbs 29:18 (King James Version)

 ¹⁸Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

Executive teams, management teams, departmental meetings, corporate strategic planning consortiums cannot hide... NO event is immune to this virus... that is, IF a leader does not rise up and valiantly provide this purpose.  

The WORST thing a leader could do is gather his team, setup for a meeting, and have no stated purpose, direction or previously defined reason for gathering.  

Like a good movie, each meeting should have a well defined "plot," according to Patrick Lencioni in his book, Death By Meeting: (a must read)

     The key to injecting drama into a meeting lies in setting up the plot from the outset.  Participants need to be jolted a little during the first ten minutes of a meeting, so that they understand and appreciate what is at stake.

     This might call for the leader to illustrate the dangers of making a bad decision, or highlight a competitive threat that is looming.  It can also be accomplished by appealing ot participants' commitment to the larger mission of the organization, and its impact on clients, employees, or society at large.

So next time you book a meeting, follow this:

1.  Get vision, personally.  Clearly determine the primary reason for the meeting?  (try answering this question:  what WON'T happen if we do not meet?)

2.  The 25% rule.  Spend no less than 25% of the proposed meeting time length preparing for the meeting, well in advanced.  (example:  2 hour meeting?  you should spend 30 minutes (or more) preparing your notes, illustrations, thoughts)

3.  Prime the pump.  Send out the VISION for the meeting to your team at least one day prior to the meeting. (this will give them a chance to prepare their thoughts and ideas as well)

4.  Set the hook.  Upon gathering, clearly restate the purpose for the meeting.  (perhaps even write it at the top of your white board... like a "header")  What are you here to accomplish?

5.  Stick to it.  Auxiliary issues will pop up, but you can decide if they are urgent and important enough that your meeting should be refocused to address them.  If not, put them on a "parking lot list" for next time.

5.5  The Law of the Lid.  Realize that your team growth is limited by you, and your ability to infuse your vision into their planning, purpose, and practice.  THAT is @EntreLeadership.

Integrity over Image

INTEGRITY OVER IMAGE
God, may I never be more concerned with surface appearances than with inward substance. I long for a Christlike character that will sustain me through the vicissitudes and trials of this life. May I seek integrity over image and holiness over happiness. Protect me from the sin of lost potential that would result from pursuing the wrong things at the wrong times in the wrong ways. Grant me the power to be that same person when no one is looking as I am when I am among my peers. Let me be increasingly impressed with Jesus Christ and less impressed with appearance, posturing and posing. I ask that godly character will inform and empower my daily choices and relationships. Then I will seek the things that really matter and endure over the things that will fade and disappear.

Indispensable

11.15.10

Indispensable

What differentiates average, hardworking people from those an organization deems "indispensable?"  

Is it unique abilities?  Is it some magical element of emotional intelligence?  Is it a superpower?

No.

The difference between average folks and the indispensable team members is simply this:

Decision.

Indispensable people are formerly average performers, who made a decision to take on every single situation as a unique opportunity to add value.  

Boss interaction?  A fantastic opportunity to hone skills of "leading up."

Staff interaction?  A perfect opportunity to hone the skills of "servant leadership."

Every social interaction.  Every family interaction.  Every work project that comes their way... all are filtered through this single, forgone conclusive decision to be indispensable.

Think about this: You have 4 waiters on your staff.  Business is slow, and you must lay one off.  3 of them are hard workers, and the 4th is good.  The 4th, however, has shown the ability to problem solve.  Case and point:  when an irate customer started yelling last week, the 4th waiter stepped in and turned this customers "frown upside down."  When scheduling issues arise, the 4th waiter is always on point with several solutions that could create a win-win.  The 4th waiter's conversations (between staff and customers) reflect his sensitivity to the kitchen's specials (and thus costs) to help the restaurant profit more per patron with every meal.  

Who do you keep?

I would note that rarely will you see a waiter job description ask a waiter to analyze costs of the kitchen to amplify profits, or even step in to collaborate with peers to coordinate schedules... but the INDISPENSABLE person doesn't need to be told to add value.  

They decide to.

Decide to.

Inter-Dependence

11.14.10

Inter-Dependence 

We were created for interdependence.  No man is an island.  We are all connected in some way.

I learned this lesson over the past few days, in a big way.  After returning from a 3 day business trip to the mid-south, I contracted a stomach flu from my contagious 8 month old son.  (We suspect the church nursery played a part in this as well...)  

Now I'm the kind of person who really doesn't get sick.  In fact, I can't remember the last time I was THIS sick before!  (probably back when I was a small child)  

I was totally incapacitated.  

My wife, my Ezer Kinegdo, my help-mate, my soul-mate... my nurse, proceeded to care for me in a way I never expected.  She called my doctor, got advice from the nurses on call for just what to do.  She got a prescription for me, to subside some of the symptoms of my flu.  

She loved me, unconditionally.

She cared for me, relentlessly.  

She woke me every hour on the hour to take another sip of Gatorade to restore my hydration.  

A sickness that could have lasted a week, easy, has been cleansed out of my body in 3 days...

In those 3 days, I was completely dependent on my wife for my everything.  She was amazing.  

We were created for interdependence.  And I am so glad.

Integrity

11.06.10

Integrity.

Becoming a person of integrity is all that matters.  

With integrity, you live in peace.  I've never heard anyone say "Oh boy, I really hope nobody finds out I did... the RIGHT thing!"

With integrity, we can walk in communion with God.  Just as He intended.  A parent has the closest relationship with their kids when their values are the same.  God values integrity.

With integrity, you have a built in guide to know what is right and wrong.  (Holy Spirit)

With integrity, you'll gain the trust, honor, respect, and influence of those around you.

Becoming a person of integrity is all that matters, in ministry, business, and family.

.... on the flip side....

NOT having integrity, in any one of these areas, quickly BECOMES all that matters. (think about it)

Want to become a person of integrity?  Try this:

1.  Get to know Jesus, personally.  You can never live a life of integrity from sheer will or might.  Allow the indwelling Christ through the presence of the Holy Spirit to lead you to do what is right.

2.  Apologize.  You need to go and repent to those you've been fake with.  Those you've lied to.  Those you've hurt from the absence of integrity in your past.  It's not an easy thing to do, but your conscious will thank you.  Remember: it isn't about them forgiving as much as it is about you repenting, sincerely.

3.  Be resolved.  Simply do what Jesus told us to do:  Let your YES be YES, and your NO be No. 

Matthew 5:37 

"All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one."

It's never too late to become a person of integrity.

R3

11.02.10

Right Things.  Right Timing.  Right Reasons.

Decisions are tough, especially when they directly affect the future of any team, organization, or group.  Emotions can run high in the midst of change, too.

Think about this:  there has NEVER been a President of the USA, a Governor of any State, or a Mayer of any city that has NOT been criticized.  While I'm sure there are many reasons, the one that comes to mind immediately is simply this...

Change.

Change affects everyone differently.  Some thrive on it, while others avoid it.  Some melt down under its pressure, while others refine and strengthen.

Leaders MUST make decisions that catalyze CHANGE.  Period.

But what do you do when a clear cut decision isn't so accessible, and there is "no right or wrong answer?"...

My mentor has encouraged me to filter major decisions through the R3 matrix:

1.  Right Things:  Is this decision in alignment with the truth of God's Word?  Seems like a rhetorical question, but I can't count the number of times this simple filter question has protected me from "gut feel" poor decisions.

2.  Right Timing: Is it the right timing for this decision to be made?  Sometimes even the best decisions need to wait for God's timing.

And finally...

3.  Right Reasons: Is this decision motivated by the right reasons?  Why are you doing this... REALLY?  Stop, and truly ponder that question. WHY?  Is it for respect? recognition? Are you doing to prove something to someone you probably don't even really like anyway? 


I encourage you to consider this filter next time you endeavor into life's toughest calls.  Change is necessary, and bold leadership is mandatory from time to time.  Can't please everyone.... but you can do your best to make God honoring decisions for the Right reasons, Right timing, and right things by stopping and considering these thoughts....

Time to CHANGE.

A Breath of Belief

10.29.10

A Breath of Belief

Last night I spoke with a close friend.  

This brother has traveled many miles with me, a few years ago in my life.  He saw the "raw" Rob.  The brilliantly untamed high D, moderate I personality I was born with.  He saw the crazy, carefree Rob, full of life and joy.  He saw the entrepreneurial Rob, overflowing with ideas, strategies, and tenacity to succeed.  He saw the ferocious fire in my eye, unresolved and focused on the goals.

This brother has first hand experienced my vision, discernment, then activity of taking bold moves to achieve what I set out to accomplish.

This brother marched back to back with me, 15 years ago for a solid 6 year season... sharing ideas, dreams, concepts, excitement, stories, thrills, failures, .... all of it.

He has seen much of which I've tried so hard to passify in the most recent years.

I ask myself, WHY have I tried to stuff who I "use to be" down deep into the abyss?  

Is it because I have responsibilities now in my life, and "full throttle" living is irresponsible?

Is it because I grew tired of living genuinely "On Fire?" and find it more sustaining to live predictably?

Is it because somewhere along the line I forced my thought patterns to a more practical plan?

Or maybe it wasn't nearly all that strategic...?

... is it because I fell asleep at the wheel of my life, and have floated from defaults to defaults, simply thinking this is what success is suppose to be?...

Ugh.

Regardless of HOW/WHY I have found myself in the place of conflicted complacency, the reality is I've now identified that I no longer wish to stay here.  

I look at my close friend, my brother, my comrade... and I see him chasing (and CATCHING) dreams.  

I respect him, greatly for what he's accomplished.  Sure, there may be a few things I'd have done differently... but by in large... he is STILL chasing the dream.  And he's doing it!

Every time we speak (sometimes 6 months go by between phone calls) it's like we pick up right where we left off.  Reminisce about old stories of years gone past... dream about what the future will hold.  

My friend inspires me, most likely, because he really KNOWS ME.  He knows the "Rob" before life through water on my fiery parade.  He know the "Rob" before I put thousands of pounds of responsibility on my own shoulders.  He knows the "Rob" before the trade off between dream and default was made.  

He knows the "Rob" that is desperately trying to resurface for air.

For now, I'll take a hit off my brother's oxygen tank... even if it is 6 months between.

Powerful Transformation

10.26.10

Powerful Transformation

At the start of 2010, I took my "New Year's Resolutions" to the cross.  My prayer and cry was for God to reveal to me patterns, goals, or things in my life that He wanted me to work on.  

I'm a fixer.  I am change agent.  I'm a do-er.  I like the strategic "knock down list," because it allows me to race to the finish and get all items done in record time.

But God had other plans.  

Sure He gave me some divine revelations regarding work, family, and friends... But at the heart of it all, and I do mean it ALL, was SCRIPTURE. 

God revealed to me, plain as day, that unless I'm tapped into the flowing pipeline of His never changing WORD (Logas) that I would be rendered ineffective in all other areas of my life.  He told me to fill myself up with His love, so that I could be poured out to those around me that I love. 

By starting every day (except a short handful) off by reading the One Year Bible, reflection on the truths, and intimate prayer with Him, God has slowly melted away ice on my heart I didn't even knew existed and began to transform my mind to be more in alignment with His.  

Our present day prayer requests have many times been answered before by God!  All we need to do is experience it through his word.

2 Timothy 3:16-17 NLT

 "All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true 

and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives.

  

It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.  

God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work."